How to Let Go of Hatred | Orchos Tzaddikim

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dov Ber Weisman’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Now he knows he read the Torah. [snorts] Okay. So we have a goal in life and our goal in life is to be the best husband and father we can be. [applause] >> That's why you were created to be the best husband and father you could possibly be and the best son, friend, brother, teacher, lawyer, doctor, whatever you do to be the best. And how did we define best? How did we define did we define best? How did we define best? There's there's only one definition of good better is character traits. Are you kind and loving and generous? Are you open and warm and playful? Are you compassionate and have peace of mind? Are you motivated and inspired? Are you motivating and inspiring? Are you just a great, wonderful, healthy, amazing human being? That's what you're here for. So that we actually said that's the first level. actually said that's the first level. And then the level above that is spiritual awareness. Spiritual awareness because an atheist can also be an amazing husband and father. But he can't be spiritually conscious. And the actual ultimate purpose of life is to identify as an as a soul and bring godliness into the world. However, if you're not a happy, healthy, normal, kind, loving person, you got no chance of doing that. So, you got steps.

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1. 0:00Now he knows he read the Torah. [snorts] Okay. So we have a goal in life…
2. 2:31Salt. How much salt do you use in your recipe? Too little not good. Too much…
3. 5:34it's destroying your life. Understand this. In fact, it's like with all your character traits. Your…
4. 8:06So it says you will may you might hate someone, but don't do it in your…
5. 11:15They were really they're going through a hard time [snorts] or they were really tired. I…
6. 14:21goes, "No, when I'm playing tennis with my friends or when I'm at a party or…
7. 16:56is just someone doesn't love me back and doesn't give doesn't give me what what I…
8. 20:00[clears throat] all go wrong. Isn't that crazy? It's just completely destroying you. So to be…
9. 22:36like people who are trying to help us, giving us advice. Now, even in a nice…
10. 25:38to communicate well and he has to have a rebby." I don't let my female students…

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