What's The Difference Between Self Care And Selfishness?

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Hi, this is David Elsky with our question and answer series. Anonymous asks, what is the difference between self-care and selfishness? Wow, this is so important. Let me start by telling you a story. And like the best stories, it's annoying. Something that I do well. Listen to this story. There was an almond with a bunch of little kids. And mom is they had no food. When I say no food, I didn't mean like when a kid comes home today and opens up the refrigerator and it's full and it says, "There's nothing to eat." I mean, no food sure to come out small. And someone said, "Look, I feel bad for you." They gave her a hard-boiled egg. And she goes into her room and shuts the door and she thinks, "What am I going to do? Cut it up and give everybody a little piece? It's not going to It's not going to help. Yeah." And she finally decides to eat the egg herself. And the children are outside banging on the door saying, "Mommy, Mommy, what are you doing?" And she said, "I'm making you a mommy." Those of us who fly are very familiar with this announcement. When traveling with children, always make sure to put on your mask before helping others. Because if I'm helping others put on their masks and I pass out, I'm not going to be any use to anybody. First put on your mask. I mentioned this when Rabbi Nissan wrote his book on women's feel of rig shade live. So, he asked Rabbi Scheinberg Zatzal, if a woman put the baby in for a nap and she's running around the whole day with this baby and she's mom is a shmatte. And the kid's going to sleep for about 45 minutes. She can either daven or

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1. 0:00Hi, this is David Elsky with our question and answer series. Anonymous asks, what is the…
2. 0:31comes home today and opens up the refrigerator and it's full and it says, "There's nothing…
3. 1:01"Mommy, Mommy, what are you doing?" And she said, "I'm making you a mommy." Those of…
4. 1:34put on your mask. I mentioned this when Rabbi Nissan wrote his book on women's feel…
5. 2:04put up her feet, make herself a coffee, watch the Rabbi Elsky show. He didn't say…
6. 2:36need. The Mesillas Yesharim discusses a level called precious, which means separating yourself from things in…
7. 3:06Rabbi Orlovsky said to me once and it was very profound. He says a doctor said…
8. 3:36so you're going to go a very long time until your car collapses. It's something you…
9. 4:07is where I care about myself and not about you. Selfishness is not that I'm doing…
10. 4:37question and answer series. Rabbi Elsky, Rabbi Elsky. Yes. Is the Elsky Pesach program still happening?…

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