The Mystical Letter Hei - Part 6: Why Are Guys Commitment-phobic? - Rabbi Yaakov Marcus

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[Music] okay fine so now let's go back and see how this affects relationships because in relationships you know if you ask marriage counselors across the United States when they're dealing with a couple whose marriage is in crisis let's say couples marriages and stress and they go for help so if you didn't pull a they go for help so if you didn't pull a survey of all these thousands of marriage counselors across America who would me tell you typically now let's push aside the fact that there's always exceptions but typically are they gonna say is it the husband who lacks the skill set to make a marriage great more often or the wife who naturally Laxus skill set to make a marriage great who typically is weaker husbands right as a matter of fact I think you'll find that's true now there are always exceptions but from a term perspective that makes sense why because it that makes sense why because it masculine means to give over an effect outside yourself from a place of no limitation right that spirituality is going in every direction so in a man's world everything is equally outside of it we don't our brains do not process the world like eros do a minute everything is equally outside which means when a man gets married he marries his wife but he marries his career he marries his car he marries the TV he marries the internet he marries his golf

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1. 0:03[Music] okay fine so now let's go back and see how this affects relationships because in…
2. 1:35marries the internet he marries his golf game he marries the health club they're all equally…
3. 3:07something she turned the guy and say listen we've been practically married for the last four…
4. 4:40within 60 seconds of him marrying her so within 60 seconds of him marry her this…
5. 6:16start-to-finish recovery time 48 hours meanwhile Susan who we dated for two years hasn't left her…
6. 8:18so you hear the problem right nobody's making the role except for obviously Orthodox Jewish one…
7. 9:50if the average guy out there is commitment phobic or it's hard for him to limit…
8. 11:22Orthodox Jewish families it's very good for you so let's take that cig I'm jus I'm…
9. 12:55you're gonna be exotic one day you want to be righteous you want to leave the…
10. 14:27take you to a higher level so obviously he needs more of it now let's take…

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