Codependency is NOT love! (What if YOU are the toxic one?)

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shais Taub’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

they loved in an unhealthy way rabish shim showed us how to love in a healthy way what's the story ofish shim tonight's talk is called how to stop controlling and start loving and uh the topic was chosen because of the time of the year what's the connection to the time of the year right now we're in the middle of SPO which is is a time of minor AOS mourning for the Jewish people because during this period of time 24,000 students of RAB AA perished in an epidemic in a plague and it seems astonishing that a great teacher such as RAB AKA would have students who were worthy of death and the explanation that the gamar gives us is even more astonishing the gamar tells us that they were being punished because they didn't treat each other respectfully they didn't give each other honor so as I said the explanation is even more astonishing what was rea's Anthem what was his Banner reaba is the one famously who said love your fellow as yourself this is a major principle of the to this concept of of loving your fellow so students of the man who taught love ended up incapable of treating each other respectfully and maybe you're going to say well maybe they were just wannabes theya wannabes you know they were tagong but no we're told they are they are tala they are his tal they're his disciples so what in the world went wrong you know our sages tell us that that no two human beings have the same mind everybody's mind works

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