Do You Really Want a Happy Life Together? - Rabbi Refael Ribacoff

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] In terms of what to say to couples that are out there in the secular world, they compare it to a tea kettle on the fire. You put the water into the pot, it starts to boil. It starts to give off a lot of noise. It's very exciting. It's very good. But once you take it off, take it off the fire, put on the counter, it starts to fizzle out. It starts to get cold. So in the secular world, that's what they compare marriage. It's all exciting in the beginning. It's all passion. It's all love. And then after a while, it just starts to fizzle out. But I heard something even better. You want to make the tea. So you grab for the little tea bag. And the tea bag is really cute. Comes in a little package. Smells good. and then you open it up and you see there's some strings attached to the whole thing and before you know it you dunk yourself into hot water and after a while it doesn't make any more sense. But that's a secular view of what marriage is all about and for us within the Bkhar community and beyond we have the rabbis that are here to teach us the correct way. What does the Torah want from us? What does Hashem want in his infinite wisdom when he decided that man and woman should get married to each other? If you ask anybody, it's set up for disaster. And we see the world out there today, 50% plus divorce rate and so on and so forth. And within the community itself, it's it's taken its toll. But we have to understand that the Torah is timeless. The Torah has the

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1. 0:04[Music] In terms of what to say to couples that are out there in the secular…
2. 1:35answers and the Torah has the guidance that we need. If I can quote Rabbi Kavas…
3. 3:09them, motivate them, encourage them to want to grow or or to give them at least…
4. 4:44things that you want done to you. So therefore you think that the other person wants…
5. 6:22I'm going to take care of him. She doesn't know anything. I need to teach her.…
6. 7:59parents. You would think that what the Torah says you got to go to your parents…
7. 9:32become born and time came for her to be born cuts this nishama up in half…
8. 11:10One time I had a couple that came over for counseling and they're sitting there and…
9. 12:44responsibility. And it's not a disrespect to the parents by you sticking up for your wife…
10. 14:18offensive and you know positional and and problematic and and and that's fine. And God decided…

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