Marriage & Polarity - Rabbi Yaakov Altman

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] okay today we're gonna speak about incredibly important topic this is probably one of the most important topics you can possibly imagine okay the topic is marriage extremely important today the state of marriage is not too good okay this union is really not as a good situation I would like to give you a few basic keys to make marriage much much basic keys to make marriage much much much better okay this is just something obviously there's a lot to talk about in marriage but this is a very good start now if you first of all the following the quality of your life is the quality of your relationships the quality of your life - the quality relationships if things are good with your intimate relationship which was your husband with your spouse then things are great if things are not good with him even everything else is terrible even if anything else is good I would say right then it life's not good right if everything's wonderful except with him life is not good if everything is terrible god forbid but with him things are good god forbid but with him things are good you can deal with anything very very straight forward it's extremely important and you know today the problem is that people are our marriage is basically breaking apart okay now I want to give you a few fundamental ideas let's start with the following there is a concept in there's a concept which is very important it's hard for us to understand because we are already speaking English when you speak English the word that's very similar to the real concept confuses you so for example if you tell somebody you can't do work on Shabbos right say okay we can't do work

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1. 0:00[Music] okay today we're gonna speak about incredibly important topic this is probably one of the…
2. 4:06as an wife that makes human being otherwise wife by herself cause my himself separately half…
3. 8:15into what is a man and what is a woman it's assuming there are differences definitely…
4. 12:29sure in the same way that he did a little guitar is not capable right she's…
5. 16:40intelligent around here yeah and it's gonna be you now this is an amazing thing up…
6. 20:42don't you call 15-minute conversation why because when she gets on the phone my wife's interested…
7. 24:50level and he's on this level he's trying to reach you and he comes up with…
8. 28:54enough I'm not intelligent enough not friendly enough I'm not you know good enough I don't…
9. 33:04disappears it's amazing you both have to be willing to do that we have to don't…
10. 37:07be a women can do this also it's a masculine idea explosive and new ideas but…

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