The Therapeutic Benefits of Sharing Your Painful Emotions

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi YY Jacobson’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

i want to read it to you when i read when i got it i just thought i would be uh it was extremely moving so drew who doesn't live here he listens online this mimer that you're teaching that i've listening to i have to tell you that it has opened up my eyes in a new way one of my children is older and he's struggling terribly with addiction and isolation and terrible terrible emotional struggles with himself and the world around him and i was dealing with him all these years it turns out in a way that just reflected my ignorance i basically knew nothing i was doing when he was growing up but i called myself a true and good father because that's what i believed was the right thing to do basically my entire model of education was based on internal isolation guilt fear and just instinctively controlling the situation i never turned inwards to ask myself where my reactions are coming from maybe it's the way i was brought up maybe i never felt real love i don't even know what love is i was financially responsible i was financially responsible but i did not know what it means to emotionally connect connect these classes have begun a very profound healing process for me simply opening myself up to my own inner pain and what it means to have a relationship with hashem i learned what bittle means i now talk to my son daily in a different way but it's very hard and complicated to say the least because it's like redoing a half a century of mistakes

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1. 0:31i want to read it to you when i read when i got it i just…
2. 6:22me it bothers me and he says that's what hazal called it's not the hatred started…
3. 12:32something more there's something much deeper bizarre custom there's an expression here shayan navi chapter 66…
4. 18:39tinge of of joy like you know something you know people don't like talking about this…
5. 24:49to avoid the means internal spiritual work of the hashem they can open up and talk…
6. 30:57means one is is you're going to talk about it one is from the word so…
7. 37:07divorced from the true sense of self that is an expression of hashem's oneness in other…
8. 43:18ruin a palace that i have built so successfully and it made me who i am…
9. 49:25in other words i create the situation and then i say i can't deal with this…
10. 55:33years you mentioned they say but this is very comforting because it means that the internal…

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