Rabbi Yirmiyahu Ullman - Orchot Tzaddikim: Flattery - Part 4

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

we're in the chapter on um flattery okay good if we're up to the eight so continuing in our discussion here on flattery is's giving I think it was a list of nine forms of flattery uh the most recent one we saw was seven where he's talking about if a person lives in a in a place where there are let's say Wicked or unobservant uh people or whose observance is LAX and he says I want going to rebuke them because they might not listen that's wrong because they might yeah listen and if you can rebuke them and you don't then you're actually held accountable for what they've done wrong why cuz you could have prevented them from doing it so in a way they're doing it because if you're not saying anything is considered as if you've done it and therefore a person has to be very careful to use his power of influence uh within his sphere of influence to try and prevent people from doing things wrong and if he doesn't that's almost tantamount to concurring with what they're doing and that's why he includes this in a form of flattery because of course you're not overtly flattering the person like we were discussing in the previous forms of flattery but in a way you're kind of um recognizing or uh giving your tacit indirect approval to what they're doing that's a form of flattery he says we mentioned that um if you can't say anything you can't do anything you have no way of of helping or changing the situation then

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1. 0:21we're in the chapter on um flattery okay good if we're up to the eight so…
2. 4:07willed and they will not receive this rebuke as a result of this he's silent he'll…
3. 7:49not not pleasant to be around people who are kind of chiding and always sneering and…
4. 11:29the parents and they're just adamant and taking every opportunity to criticize the person and criticize…
5. 15:05him excuse me or he's going to cause him to lose time because the hand of…
6. 18:50the story of is that a pun no it is like Iran Nick yeah like what…
7. 22:32sense it's true in the emotional sense and I understand it to be true even in…
8. 26:25himself right very often from the mentality of the world that we come from being manly…
9. 30:06a husband initiating the flatter towards the wife the same thing to the rabbi to the…
10. 33:47Smiles so he takes it off and he puts it on his shoulders you know one…

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