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Everyone can be in a passionate, loving relationship [music] with one person the rest of your life, but you just have to have the wisdom. Hi, this is Coach Rner [music] and today we're going to talk about the ten commandments of marriage. You know, it's interesting. When Moshe comes down from the mountain, he comes with two tablets. Why didn't he come with one? Well, one of the reasons is because it would show that there's an order to each of the commandments, but as we know, they're all important. The first five deal with between man, between man and God. But the second five are between man and man. It's not just between man and man, though. It's the first three of the second five, do not kill, do not do adultery, and do not steal, are all about actions, things we do with our hands. The ninth commandment, do not bear false witness, has to do with your speech. The tenth commandment has to do, do not covet, has to do with your thought. So we have action, we have speech and we have thought. Now just like the ten commandments is about relationship with man and God, we also have relationships with our spouses. And so what I did is I decided to take each of the ten commandments and relate them to marriage. And that's what this class is about. The first commandment of the ten commandments is Hashem. I am God. I don't know about you, but does that sound like a commandment? No. It's a statement. So how do we translate that statement? I am God. Most of the time it's translated is that we are to know God. Why is it to know God? Because you know I can sit here and say I'm coach Rner, but you really know me. Unless you've
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