Don't Let Your Kid Go to Camp Until You've Had This Conversation

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

And there's no other aveira that anybody comes marching to my office repeatedly. Not Lashon Hara, not Bitul Torah, not Chillul Hashem, not stealing, nothing. This I would have thousands of children over the years come because, "Oh my gosh, am I sick because I do this?" No, you're perfectly normal. You're having these thoughts and [music] feelings and drives and desires. And now how are we going to navigate those? So there is curiosity. And again, [music] till we can speak about it, till our kids don't have the shame around it, till we are able to deal with them, we have no chance of handling it. Obviously, we're not going handling it. Obviously, we're not going to stop the sexual drive, not with a book, not with a program, not with a lecture, nor should we. >> Dr. Shmuel Zimmerman, you probably know him from around or even our podcast and Living L'Chaim Podcast Therapy, sits down with our new That's an Issue host, Dr. Shira Wolf, a clinical psychologist in New York, to discuss what is so important about educating our kids specifically before camp, but honestly, this is a conversation that needs to happen with our kids in the proper time, and it's so important. And it's not easy to do, but Dr. Zimmerman walks us

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1. 0:00And there's no other aveira that anybody comes marching to my office repeatedly. Not Lashon Hara,…
2. 5:40early part of my career. >> Wow, loaded. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Um would you say…
3. 11:52have this instinct to like walk out, right? Like I have this instinct to just like…
4. 18:04encourage. The same thing goes on a you know as we get older now it gets…
5. 24:11openness? Is there any is there any risk in the naming you know highlighting preempting >>…
6. 30:17family struggles, or health challenges? Mental health allows us to handle life's pressures, build stronger relationships,…
7. 36:54the kids, I'd be very, very hesitant on that. I've had kids FedEx to me in…
8. 43:05biggest thing, empower them. Then the institutions can do the other the more broad chinuch, hashkafa,…
9. 49:13there are clear policies and procedures it protects the adults and protects the children. People think,…
10. 55:21inside stuff. And if they what we hear from so many of the older kids later…

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