When You’re Dysregulated, You Can’t Regulate Your Children

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi YY Jacobson’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

executive director of fresh start and it's an honor and for us to continue hosting this webinar series bringing together Jews from all over the world and all different backgrounds when Fresh Start opened a few short years ago our goal was to provide services and programming to help clausell heal from the past experience including childhood abuse trauma neglect but here we are today the traumas in the present and the current events in AR and around the world are causing many of us to feel anxiety fear and a host of other Le Mayan and in honor of too and Ellie sullon two pillars of the Detroit Community joining us today we have the tremendous list to be joined by Rabbi YY Jacobson who needs no introduction I'm I hope you're okay with that Rabbi y y I feel like he heard that so many times ushi doesn't introduce him anymore we don't introduce those are the best introductions okay it's also the safest we are also joined by Mrs Tova Korn co-founder and program director of fresh start and of course Dr Aon and Dr abon I'm happy to tell you that your last uh webinar with us on Rabbi YY went at least in our community viral I know it's been viewed thousands and thousands of times um I got amazing feedback I think re why why you got meaningful feedback so it's an honor to have you Dr Avon is founder and director of think kids in the department of Psychiatry at Mass General Hospital he's also an associate professor and Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and

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1. 0:32executive director of fresh start and it's an honor and for us to continue hosting this…
2. 6:49you D and thank you uh for everybody that's joining us here and all those who…
3. 13:12understand and I think one of the things that I would imagine is in this community…
4. 19:27thoughts in a sort of coherent and effective and quick enough way and communicate them back…
5. 25:41so what I my Approach would be uh quite the opposite which is the reassurance that…
6. 32:13Myriad reasons that could be the case and the sort of the Bedrock of my work…
7. 38:03rocket science but it's called Educated guessing right I mean there's only so many reasons in…
8. 44:25them is here's what empathy looks like okay here's I'm modeling empathy for you they'll learn…
9. 50:43because I don't say a word to my kid like where's the balance I'm not telling…
10. 57:10we I want my children to know who they are to know what it means to…

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