The Masochistic Personality of Our Time | Rabbi Dr. Zev Ballen

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shalom Arush’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Hi. Today I want to speak to you about neurotic conflicts and how we can unmask those conflicts through immunotherapy. You know, everybody has conflicts. Being in conflict doesn't mean doesn't mean that one is necessarily neurotic. The difference between neurotic conflicts and the conflicts that normal people have is that normal conflicts are usually conscious and the person has strong and the person has strong sense of free will and the ability to make decisions and choose which way he wants to go. A A neurotic conflict is usually unconscious or part of it is conscious and the other part is unconscious. It makes it much more difficult to detect what the problem is. On top of that, often times the person is doing everything that he possibly can to deny the problem. to deny the problem. So, the person is suffering. The person is having difficulty in functioning or in relationships or in work in the workplace and he feels bad, he feels depressed, he feels anxious but he doesn't know why. It's a mystery. So, we can know for sure that whenever a person presents a problem, whether it's depression or anxiety or anger or feelings of unreality or feelings of unreality that is just a symptom. It's just a symbol or a sign for an underlying conflict which needs to be resolved and worked out. So, today we're going to talk about the different types of some of the different types of conflicts people have and the so-called neurotic solutions that they enact or they develop as a way of dealing with them.

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1. 0:11Hi. Today I want to speak to you about neurotic conflicts and how we can unmask…
2. 4:17like a tranquilizer. Not really always having the ability to reciprocate the love or return the…
3. 8:26fighting, aggressive, and um type of a person. A person who wants to argue and beat…
4. 13:35begin who discover personal prayer that they overuse the personal prayer in a sense to detach…
5. 17:40and scream and make threats. Um we've all met people like this. And oftentimes this need…
6. 22:21relationships, in his love life and with his children, with his career. Because now he just…
7. 26:28at because they don't fulfill his needs uh magically and help him the way he'd like…
8. 30:41do something good with it. But, again, it's not the primary motivation. He is trying to…
9. 35:20Hashem is not expecting these children to be baalei emunah and to be able to do…
10. 39:26um, it is possible to talk about the the difficult painful things. And it's much better…

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