A Raw Talk About Hasidic Marriages

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

If you would ask me what are the most phone calls I'm getting in my office, the answer is about cheating. Meaning it starts like that. The phone calls going like this. Yes. How you doing? Fine. Is everything confidential? I know right away. Okay. So my answer will be to him not only everything is confidential. I'm I almost sure what what you want to ask. >> Wherever you're going to ask, you're not the first one asking this question and not the last one. >> And be comfortable. And I have a >> And be comfortable. And I have a compliment for you. The fact that you called me about it, it's really a sign that you're ready to [music] work. >> Rabbi Ali Malik Friedman grew up in the Smir community of Williamsburg and has been living there for the past 50 plus years and accidentally became a teacher and guide to thousands of people. People started to reach out to him about their marital issues. Through counseling hundreds of individuals and couples, Rereman has become extremely attuned to what causes disconnect between husband and wife and how to repair fractured marriages. He shares some serious relationship wisdom that you might be you grow up and where do you live now? >> Thank you for having me. >> Sure. >> I grew up in Williamsburg, Brooklyn, New York. >> And that's where you live? >> Where I live for the last more than 50 years. So there's a lot to discuss here and I want you to for the few people who don't know who you are, could you explain what you've been up to for the past bunch of years? >> So I'm going to make it quick. So I start up as being a teacher, a malamut for right away at like two years after my marriage.

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1. 0:00If you would ask me what are the most phone calls I'm getting in my office,…
2. 6:12Could you help us?" Cuz then the responsibility or a lot of it is on you.…
3. 11:55years, four years. Bum bum bum. Boom. What? What? What's going on here? Is this a…
4. 17:31way, you would design it that way. Like how can you walk on the street with…
5. 23:39go back. So intimacy has steps. Steps meaning the closer you get, the higher you're you're…
6. 29:20to like this is where I have to go. I can tell you something. Let me…
7. 34:58when it comes to a real connection, >> my favorite part of the episode is coming…
8. 40:36all, you have to put your how do you say put your uh put >> put…
9. 47:15there are there times where people it just the marriage is not going to work out…
10. 53:28most of the people's like 30 days, 40 days, one year it's too much for them.…

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