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good evening and blessings to all every person in life encounters moments of stubbornness the question arises should I remain firm or show flexibility King Solomon offers guidance both in a parable and its explanation about the harm and benefits of these different approaches let's first explore the parable he presents and then delve into its meaning in Proverbs 11:20 King Solomon says the Lord detests those with a perverse heart but he Delights in those whose ways are blameless a person with a perverse heart Solomon explains is distanced by God the word detests implies something uncomfortable something unpleasant that we naturally push away God distances himself from those with a stubborn heart why does Solomon tie stubbornness to the heart he uses this term because sometimes the Mind understands the need for flexibility but the emotions in the heart ego and pride refuse to allow it this type of stubbornness can manifest in various areas of life and often leads to self-destruction for example imagine a man who feels slighted by his father-in-law on Tuesday by Saturday when he and his wife were supposed to visit her parents he declares we're not going we're staying home his wife who has already made plans and feels committed is upset especially with the last minute change deep down the man knows he's making a mistake yet having spoken those words his pride stops him from retreating he insists on his decision causing unnecessary AR conflict and disappointing his wife Solomon teaches us that this kind of stubbornness stems not from logic but from the heart it's destructive as we know the human soul is structured with three elements the nephesh soul seated in the liver governs desires the ruak spirit seated in the
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