Q&A: Overcoming a Dysfunctional Family - Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch

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[Music] my name is rabbi Daniel Sean Bock I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based here in New York and around the world via Skype often we answer your questions that come from around the world that have to do with marriage relationships and family issues the first letter comes from a listener who writes that he came from a very dysfunctional family and because of the dysfunction he experiences a lot of anxiety and he's worried how he's treating his wife and his children and looking for ways to see if I can help them dear rabbi Sean Bock I come from a dysfunctional family and suffered abuse as a child I often suffer from anxiety which makes it difficult for me to be calm in the house of my wife is there any therapy thing it helped me resolve my issues dear viewer it sounds like you had a really hard time as a child and they could really empathize with you because we know it's psychologists that if a person has serious family of origin issues it can often have a direct impact on their daily life it can affect how they feel about themselves and most importantly it can affect how to relate to people in their homes there's no question that a child needs to experience a sense of calmness in his or her home what does calmness really mean commas means that there's predictability in a child's life for example there's a father there's a mother there's a place

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1. 0:02[Music] my name is rabbi Daniel Sean Bock I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based…
2. 0:33anxiety and he's worried how he's treating his wife and his children and looking for ways…
3. 1:34to sleep there's food to eat there's predictability the father and mother at home at certain…
4. 2:35their current life and need some extra help let me share with you a very brilliant…
5. 3:35father's side the father had two parents and he was the third child of four children…
6. 4:35child both experienced the abuse of the parent as well as distance from the other parent…
7. 5:07unfortunately his mother was also very distant which we'll note by this dotted line between his…
8. 6:08therapist perhaps you could speak to a rabbi whoever he chooses it's important to develop a…
9. 7:08therefore they may be acting out with a lot of this anxiety in their marriage and…
10. 8:09some of the distress they experienced as a child they will experience a decrease in the…

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