Does Mizbeach Cry when an Abusive Marriage Ends? with Rabbi YY Jacobson

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi YY Jacobson’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

so let me begin by a few good disclaimers claimer number one I am NOT a social worker I am NOT a trained therapist psychologist or psychiatrist or marriage counselor or even a aiesec illogic authority who postions our marriages or divorces and so forth so why am i speaking tonight I should be quiet that may be a good idea sometimes people say that but the reason is two reasons I'm speaking I was invited to speak that's one reason number two probably the reason I was invited is I have the privilege of visiting communities the world over and over the years I've heard many personal stories from many couples from many women from many men from when and women together from children from parents concerning marriage concerning abuse concerning divorce concerning various situations and I've had the privilege to listen to many of these stories some of them quite heart-wrenching as you can imagine some of them with sad endings and some of them with happy endings and I've also had the privilege of being a student of terror for many years and teaching you this kite and hush kapha especially in areas of relationships so I'm going to speak from that perspective and I must say this very clearly when it comes to marriage every situation is very individual every situation needs to be dealt with an individual basis so the comments and observations and insights and responses you'll be hearing is a perspective that I'm giving you for my own knowledge awareness and experience which as every human beings is limited especially that I'm not as I said I'm not a trained professional in this area and I must emphasize that sometimes we deal with like many situations that come

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