Why Do We Ignore Those Who Suffer In Silence?

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Hi, this is David Wolpe, with a question and answer series. We in in a few minutes we try to answer a reader's questions. This question, it's it's not the way I would phrase anything. So, that's why in case anybody ever thinks I make up these questions, trust me, I never would have written something like this. Why do we seem so fake? A girl says, "I'm depressed." Ooh, ah, now she's a celebrity. And a kid who And a kid who suffers silently or even life, shush. Okay, I'm going to try to translate that into English. >> [laughter] >> And I understand the question. >> [clears throat] >> The question is something that is innate to the system. In education, they say 10% of the kids get 90% of the time. When I was in uh Chofetz Chaim, When I was in uh Chofetz Chaim, uh a fellow said to me, "I think I'm going to kill myself." I said, "Why?" He says, "Cuz I can't think of any other way to get an appointment with the Rosh Yeshiva." So, if if you're ready to kill yourself, then he'll make time to see you. And there's so many people vying for his time. The vernacular expression for this is the wheel that squeaks gets oiled. And the one who draws more attention to themselves are the ones who are going to get that time. When I was in education,

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