Are you a successful criticizer? - Parashat Devarim - Rabbi Alon Anava

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Alon Anava’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

We are in Parshat Devarim. We're starting a brand new Chumash this week. Also this week, the diaspora and Israel are back together for the last uh almost 2 months, the diaspora was lagging before behind in the parashot because of Shavuot. And we were one parasha ahead. Now we're matched together back to Parshat Devarim starting a brand new Chumash. And I want to address today a very important, yet sensitive, difficult, and hard thing that we all try to somehow incorporate into our life, but find it very difficult to be successful. Now, we're all doesn't matter who you are, you're either a parent, you're either a spouse, you're either an educator, and you can be even a friend. That that don't have to be such a unique individual. We all part of it that not once or not twice we wanted to help somebody by telling them something that they're doing wrong. And it's coming from a place of love. I'm not even calling it at this point a rebuke. I'm just telling that I you, me, everyone you want to help another person cuz you notice them doing something inappropriate, wrong, difficult, whatever it is. And you want to say say or share your opinion and that opens up World War III. And what did I say? I just wanted to say something to improve your behavior. Now, of course, this will come a lot in marriages, in relationship between parents and kids, but it comes often between one person to another. And all I wanted to do is help. I'm noticing you doing something inappropriate, wrong, or could be even as worse as a sin, and I'm

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