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Addiction, Codependency & Love Martyrs | Why Saving Them Is Destroying You

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Rabbi Shais Taub

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  1. 0:00What does that mean? A love martyr. I'm going to love you. I'm going to fix…
  2. 1:01"Honey, I'm here for you. I'm going to fix you. My life is about you. I…
  3. 2:02it very clear that that's what it is. But nevertheless, I get a lot of calls.…
  4. 3:05because I know I can't give solutions to somebody about somebody else. So what am I…
  5. 4:05drama going on right now. A lot of fear, panic, dread. And I say all of…
  6. 5:06back, get your life back, even if your loved one doesn't change, would you be interested…
  7. 6:09that's not what I want." And even if you reiterate it to them, you know, just…
  8. 7:09so simple. Live and let live. Live and let live. Sounds simple, but there's it becomes…
  9. 8:10control when the truth is no it's not under control I mean not under your control.…
  10. 9:12being kind in exchange for the illusion of control. The kindness wasn't really gratuitous kindness. It…

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