Kesher Nafshi Presents: Crisis Chinuch Panel Rabbi Shimon Russel and Rabbi YY Jacobson - PART 2

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The opening of this shiur, in shiezoli’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

probably it's so difficult for me or anyone to be authentic and vulnerable if I'm operating from my amigdala from my Reptilian Brain I'm just trying to survive I just need you to think I'm a good guy pause and breathe let's stop there pause and breathe so authenticity and vulnerability is can only come from a person who has self-love yes that's right if you if I'm going to tell you about all my challenges and flaws and I'm afraid you're going to look at me like a nobody I'm not going to do that and that's what we're a lot of us are doing like see I know compliment me you know my family you know many of my children you've seen them witness them not for a second do I think that you look down at me in any way shape or form it doesn't even occur to me but that's because you don't look down at yourself probably right well you know if you had inner shame and self-loathing and and you really hated yourself in a very repressed unconscious level so I think I was there at the beginning of this journey I think I experienced a lot of bitterness a lot of pain I imagine I said things that I later came to regret I had a very eye-opening experience one time when uh my my eldest daughter was probably 14 15 and this is right at the beginning of our struggles and um I'd heard some news about one of my other children struggling it was AR of shabas I remember very distinctly sitting at the T chabas table Friday

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1. 0:06probably it's so difficult for me or anyone to be authentic and vulnerable if I'm operating…
2. 6:42can feel like a death sentence not not even consciously not in a malicious way but…
3. 13:15kite and depressed anxious angry resentful sleeping all day on a phone all night to whatever…
4. 19:43behavior I'm listening that that behavior is a solution the child is behaving a way to…
5. 26:08side they won't put their kids through that so this boy says I'm never going to…
6. 32:45through understanding okay deep down like my kids know deep down I want them all to…
7. 39:16where we're here and the abish is begging for authentic relationship with us and us with…
8. 45:40life what about the following scenario a seven-year-old or four-year-old or or 10-year-old boy who's molested…
9. 52:14actually did well in the system to get some love to get some validation maybe if…
10. 58:42you really want it and you're just all confused about that feeling something's wrong something's wrong…

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