Letters of the Rebbe: "To Parents Who Are Worried About Their Adult Son" (Class 24)

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shais Taub’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

Shalom. Good evening. Welcome to letter number [clears throat] 24. Before we get started tonight, just wanted to mention uh tonight's shar is dedicated to Mrs. Lifsha Weissman for tireless efforts in arranging the 30 letters kickoff event in Chicago and also in honor of the Goldman family of Oklahoma City for their pulis in struggle with in real life. But, uh, this one's a particularly, I think, uh, poignant issue. And we've had letters that speak about parenting. This isn't the first letter about parenting. But let's look at the letter. And I think you're going to agree with me that the particular situation that these parents are in and their feelings and their concerns um it's something that uh it touches a nerve it touches a nerve and hashem we have the Reb's a glimpse into the Reb's perspective on such a situation. It's a letter about parents who are concerned about an adult child and his future because apparently he is not doing very well spiritually. And I will leave it at that and allow And I will leave it at that and allow the letter to uh speak for itself. [snorts] Brooklyn this is the 18th day of and but this is not written to an individual it's not written just to the husband it seems it's written to the husband and the wife to the parents together your request for a blessing for your son plural yours uh was conveyed to me your son. May he be well and regarding his conduct. You understand what's happening here? [clears throat] parents writing into the rabbi asking for a blessing for their child

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1. 0:00Shalom. Good evening. Welcome to letter number [clears throat] 24. Before we get started tonight, just…
2. 4:12for a blessing for their child because the way that he's living right now is not…
3. 6:53it's not a overly uh young child. He's not a not a not a teenager I…
4. 9:28advice. We we took the advice. We implemented the advice. It's not working." [snorts] So listen…
5. 12:34And he says, "Well, uh, there's two things. I drank a glass of buttermilk every day…
6. 15:07Okay? And it's a change in the relationship that you have to maintain. Okay, that that…
7. 17:47important to apply it in parenting. And sometimes the hardest place to apply it is parenting.…
8. 20:57will hasten the change. In other words, I'm not just trying to make you feel better…
9. 23:29write this column. I'm not going to read the whole thing, but uh I'll just write.…
10. 26:05thing. Right? That's one of the premises over here. Ultimately your son wants to do the…

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