When Your Child Sees Inappropriate Content | Parenting in 2025

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Shais Taub’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

All right. This is a very sensitive subject and I'm going to try to deal with it delicately. Not something I normally speak about publicly. It's more of a one-on-one conversation, but I've had the conversation one-on-one so many times feel like it's worth putting it out there. uh and that is uh when a parent will call me with concern about their child seeing inappropriate things or either they were exposed to inappropriate things or they're actively now seeking out inappropriate things through technology usually. So, let me try to have this conversation with you even though we're not actually speaking. But, you know, for the parent who uh at 3:00 in the morning is desperately looking for answers, maybe this will at least start the conversation and then you can follow up. Not necessarily with me, but uh with a friend, a mentor, um someone you trust. Okay. So, let's start the conversation. So you found your child is involved in inappropriate let's say watching inappropriate uh sites. So first of all welcome to 2025. Unfortunately, the reality is that today, even in the most sheltered communities, in the most sheltered homes, even where they do not have technology in the home, because technology is so ubiquitous, it's pretty much I mean, I don't want to say a number because I don't have this is not based on a study or anything, but anecdotally, you know, I'll just say it it's not

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1. 0:00All right. This is a very sensitive subject and I'm going to try to deal with…
2. 2:05peers by by other children. So it's not a question of how do I protect my…
3. 4:48off into the wrong direction and not even realize what's happening because you're just not getting…
4. 7:31It's just a normal thing. Okay, that's also wrong. That's also wrong. But what do we…
5. 9:37privacy. Privacy actually promotes the opposite of secrecy and shame. Privacy promotes dignity. Right? If a…
6. 12:26because the the private parts are designated for a special usage. And even though it's possible…
7. 15:04It's not a one-time conversation. It is you positioning yourself in your child's life as the…
8. 17:18teenager who's already feeling probably extremely self-conscious just in general, but especially self-conscious about their sexuality.…
9. 19:55just take everything and just pull it down to align it with the type of person…
10. 22:51to that area when it's done in the proper way. So, you do want to tell…

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