Q&A: How Can I Get Mutual Investment in My Marriage? - Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch

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[Music] welcome to marriage matters my name is rabbi Daniel Sean Bock I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in New York and around the world via Skype over the last few months since we've been producing the show there have been many letters we've received from viewers that have questions about marriage about relationship and about their lives and tonight we're going to start answering some of your important questions hi rabbi then listening to several of your online lectures they've been very informative one of the lectures you mentioned that we must invest in the relationship I agree with this how can I get the same commitment to investing in the relationship for my wife I've given their women's books on marriage of the past and she reads a few pages and then puts them away to never be seen again your advice would be greatly appreciated Thanks well that's a great question for those of you didn't watch the video investing in the relationship let me share with you what I was talking about a relationship is like a savings account the more you put into that savings account the more you can take out when is necessary what a people view as deposits in their savings account well it depends on the individual some individuals think that words of affection like I love you and I care about you for investments in their savings accounts other people look at quality time unlike the first people that want quality words some people just want to have a good time like going out

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1. 0:01[Music] welcome to marriage matters my name is rabbi Daniel Sean Bock I'm a licensed Marriage…
2. 0:32rabbi then listening to several of your online lectures they've been very informative one of the…
3. 1:03relationship is like a savings account the more you put into that savings account the more…
4. 1:35in the trip going out for dinner just spending quality time with their spouse other people…
5. 2:07as withdrawals criticism contempt avoiding a conversation with them dissing think from them these are seen…
6. 2:38what are the things which your spouse views as investments you have to keep on looking…
7. 3:09spending quality time giving gifts of presence acts of service or touch just ask her out…
8. 3:39away from the home these things may be things she might not do with you but…
9. 4:12and about any issue during the family relationships but more than what I have to say…

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