A rabbi discusses guiding couples through difficult times and the limits of intervention in marital issues.
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He thought he wanted a divorce. He thought he was miserable, but I was going to show him though there's another path forward and we're going to figure this all out together. And uh I mentioned that, first of all, it's a real example, but I it took me personally a long time to realize that uh two things are true at the same time. Rabbis have a very critical role and there are ways that we can be very helpful in crisis situations. There is a unique role that rabbis can fill that perhaps others can't. But perhaps the most difficult realization for me personally was that
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