Attachment -- The Torah's Remedy for Your Struggling Child

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi YY Jacobson’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

your children are smiling much of the day. So, that's good news. That's excellent news. It's probably what we crave for most that our children should feel safe content satisfied, accomplished, proud, and loved in their schools. And the fact that Shulamith reached this milestone of extraordinary growth both in the elementary girls school and in the high school to the point that there is now this great need and yearning for a whole new edifice, a whole new infrastructure, a whole new space for the high school really warrants a great mazel tov of shehechiyanu vekiyemanu vehi giano lazman hazeh to see such growth in our educational infrastructures, especially in this glorious community of the Five Towns. And I am privileged and proud to be part of this evening. Recess, great. I'm done. Dismissed. You behaved very well. So, thank you for the opportunity. Thank you for gracing us with your presence here. And uh thank you to Shulamith, and thank you to all of the donors and supporters and all of the parents and uh of course all of the students, the talmidis. They tell an anecdote about a rabbi who loved giving sermons about how you have to respect your children. Cherish them and value them and confer respect on them. Speak to them with sensitivity and understanding and empathy. One day they were paving his alleyway, his driveway. And there was fresh new pavement on the ground. And the children on the block when they see an opportunity to leave an imprint on this world, they seize it. And hence they immediately began engraving all interesting types of messages and their names. And the rabbi coming out on the porch sees what's happening and he loses it. He begins hollering at these kids. No respect, no discipline, chaotic people. Right? Or in the good old expression chaya's raya's,

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