The Marriage Seminar #8: Proper Communication - Expressing Your Needs - Rabbi Benzion Shafier

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[Music] and now we come to that issue that seems to keep coming up how do you deal with the socks on the floor anybody ever get that question before okay but I'm gonna make it a little bit more clear because it's getting boring socks and fly get it I get it I got it yeah but the husband don't late okay but fine okay let's assume and many marriages have one of those issues I call it a socks on Felucia it's a kind of issue that really is obnoxious it's annoying it's bothersome but it likely ain't gonna change so how do you deal with it so I mentioned this before but I want to repeat it because of the very very important situation I was speaking in a Chaba tone and a fella comes over me and says rabbi here's my problem my wife is overweight I offered a personal trainer I offered all kinds of diet class or a nutrition class anything she wanted and she just doesn't care and it's very hard on me I'm a doctor I work in a hospital these nurses are pretty they're young they're attractive and my wife just doesn't care what can I do now for the record of his wife who was also there was not like some old me sue okay you know she had three kids and you know but she wasn't an attractive woman's fine so what do i do what do I do better okay so here's the first point how does he make that request to his wife so gentlemen let me make this very clear if your wife asks you how does she look

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1. 0:01[Music] and now we come to that issue that seems to keep coming up how do…
2. 0:31Felucia it's a kind of issue that really is obnoxious it's annoying it's bothersome but it…
3. 1:36what is the answer wow you look great you look beautiful if you say anything else…
4. 2:39kane Aisha bein a baile there's a special pain that a sham foot of a woman…
5. 3:41that you're not pulled away and let your wife know about it let you I've know…
6. 4:43the personal trainer for the nutrition class whatever it is and if not I understand and…
7. 5:13your wife at a good time when things aren't troubled when things aren't you know suitable…
8. 6:14are many many things that your spouse does that bother you and it's just the way…
9. 7:14about it big requests you sit down and you express what you need why it's important…
10. 8:15different things would you like to know when that woman was in the kitchen cooking and…

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