Powerful Inspiration for Older Singles - Rabbi Eli Karmel

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Being older and single can be deeply painful. The loneliness, the uncertainty, the self-doubt about whether I should have made different choices, the fear that maybe the perfect person will never come. And especially now when Yamto is coming, which is a very familyoriented time, it is even more noticeable that unfortunately you are still waiting to have your own family. And when you see your old friends that are your age that are friends that are your age that are walking with their husbands and their kids, they're all perfectly matching. I can't even begin to imagine the amount of pain that that can cause you to feel inside. And so I don't blame you for a second if you can't help but start questioning, "Hashem, how is this fear? How could you do this to me? Don't you see the pain that I'm going through? Don't you love me?" And so I'd like to share with you now a perspective that hopefully will be able to lift your spirits and will allow you to see a clear purpose in this period of your clear purpose in this period of your life. See, if everything that always happened to you would always make perfect sense and you would always be able to see exactly why every single thing that's happening to you is perfectly good for you, then it wouldn't be a big deal for you to believe that Hashem is always doing everything for your best. It'll be like kicking a soccer ball into a net without any goalie trying to block you, obviously that's not very impressive because the bigger the struggle is and the more you need to overcome, then the greater you are. So

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1. 0:02Being older and single can be deeply painful. The loneliness, the uncertainty, the self-doubt about whether…
2. 0:32friends that are your age that are walking with their husbands and their kids, they're all…
3. 1:05clear purpose in this period of your life. See, if everything that always happened to you…
4. 1:38overcome, then the greater you are. So when you see that friend with the perfectl looking…
5. 2:09to overcome such an incredible challenge. And if you could see out the shamay right now,…
6. 2:40keep trusting in Hashem that it's all for your best even though it's so hard. So…
7. 3:12friend who's married with kids. And this life is not a race to see who can…
8. 3:42to trust in Hashem, every second is trillions of dollars being deposited into your heavenly bank…
9. 4:13the show. And Hashem singled me out to give me a massive opportunity to reach the…

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