How To Have Self Confidence For A Bar Mitzvah Drosho

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This is David Oamsky with our question and answers short series where we try to answer questions that our readers submit and hopefully you know in a short amount of time. Can you record a share about self-confidence for children who need to say their bar mitzvah dra? Jerry Seinfeld said once that they did a study and they found the number one fear in America is public speaking and the second biggest fear is dying which means if you're out of Leva you'd rather be in the box than the one giving the hespit [laughter] a lot of people who are terrified of public speaking we put kids through it we don't have to by that I mean they could prepare their dra and then you tell their friends to sing them down and that's K. You can sing down a bar mitzvah boy. You can sing down a chevraas. You can't sing down someone at their son's bris. All right. My friend Rabbi Frankle was having a bris in MTJ and he says Finstein is always very careful. You know, you have to say at the bris because we have to see whether you're capable of raising this kid or not. So if a kid is momish going to be in a panic over it, write him up a thing. Let him say the first two lines, let his friends sing them down and call it a day. Yeah, I really think so. Because I don't think that every 13-year-old boy needs to go through this. Yeah. But if

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1. 0:00This is David Oamsky with our question and answers short series where we try to answer…
2. 0:30if you're out of Leva you'd rather be in the box than the one giving the…
3. 1:00All right. My friend Rabbi Frankle was having a bris in MTJ and he says Finstein…
4. 1:30they would like to, right, or if to you it's important, which is usually how we…
5. 2:34understand it. Then have somebody write it up. And if a kid is nervous, as simple…
6. 3:04Okay, I'm a speaker. You may not be a speaker, but get somebody who is good…
7. 3:35then keep it to a short devra with a bunch of thank yous. Somebody came to…
8. 4:36I learned by bar mitzvah haft tora from a tape in a conservative synagogue. I did…
9. 5:07bar mitzvah that I was going to actually read the haft to Torah. And just before…
10. 5:37with a big, you know, a big flourish. [laughter] So you got to you got to…

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