The Secret to Successful Communication – How to Give Criticism the Right Way

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Zamir Cohen’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

good evening and blessings to you all in every human society whether it's within a family at work or in any interpersonal relationship the opinions of people are not the same the wise have said just as their faces are not alike so too their opinions are not alike every person has a different opinion and this is natural especially in relationships whether in marriage parenting or at work people marriage parenting or at work people often have criticisms or complaints and they express them sometimes these criticisms can lead to situations where the other person's self-esteem is shattered whether it's parents criticizing their children a husband criticizing his wife or a wife criticizing her husband when there is too much criticism and it is expressed in an improper way it can lead to destruction on the other hand when someone feels the need to speak up they may Wonder if I don't speak up how will may Wonder if I don't speak up how will the other person know what bothers me how will they change in general there are two types of moral reprove one is when a person hears criticism from others who reprove them and point out their mistakes the other is when a person takes the initiative themselves sitting down to study opening books listening to lessons and seeking guidance on how to change in chapter 12 of The Book of Proverbs King Solomon says the following he who loves

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1. 0:00good evening and blessings to you all in every human society whether it's within a family…
2. 4:03mesilat yarim the path of the just this book is filled with wisdom and practical advice…
3. 8:08born perfect we all have our unique traits and struggles but when a person takes the…
4. 12:13as the next rebba however the G rebba had a special challenge in the diaspora the…
5. 16:21monarchy this appears in several places in the teachings of the sages who tell us that…
6. 20:29fully acquire Torah you need to study these 48 qualities as mentioned in avot chapter 6…
7. 24:37unjust harm is my standard is not what people think of me but what God thinks…
8. 28:46to say something that will be heard meaning something that the other person will listen to…
9. 32:53grateful in other words when Rabbi Chia asked himself do I have a good wife or…
10. 37:00if you are dealing with a scoffer someone who mocks everything who makes a joke out…

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