Rabbi Simon Jacobson - When a child goes off

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The opening of this shiur, in Avi Fishoff — TWiSTED Parenting’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] foreign [Music] have a number of adult children all married with families except one and painful as it is to say that one adult is over there personally I don't know I'm just commenting I don't like the expression of the Derek just for the record but I'm reading as the letter was written I will call her Ella not her real name does keep certain Mitzvahs like lighting Shoppers candles and more for example conscious wise she is mainly vegetarian would find it disgusting to eat the meat of animals that are also in the theater and she wouldn't eat bread and pasta but another area Shabbos even in public or sneeze and belief and beliefs are sometimes openly things that she says things contrary to the table thank God our families United and we all get along we love and accept her and she feels the love the troubles that some of my grandchildren are entering the sensitive pre-teen teen stage the kids see their Lively fun-loving young aunt who sends my birthday cards at night get nice gifts of money they see how she dresses and they have possibly heard her sometimes say irreverent things and disrespectful things about the Taylor I heard by the Grapevine that one parent openly tells their children that Ella is not behaving in a turret away and wants them not to think she's cool in the family of another child of mine the parents won't say anything bad about Ella they rarely see her anyway and they've just let things they just let things slide until now the problem is in the second family the 11 year old girl thinks L is kind of cool she recently said to her mother being of the Derek isn't so bad after all others

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1. 0:00[Music] foreign [Music] have a number of adult children all married with families except one and…
2. 1:04says things contrary to the table thank God our families United and we all get along…
3. 2:07of the Dead I know this needs to be nipped in the bud I know that…
4. 3:12this issue one way or another over the years but the issue has not gone away…
5. 4:49she's the sister of your other children she's the aunt of your grandchildren and the such…
6. 5:51could say that Ella is a beautiful person she's made certain choices we follow the Torah…
7. 6:55I mentioned that it should be tailored to you and to I Ella we have no…
8. 8:28instead of it becoming personalized becoming far more conceptual in a way I mean conceptual I…
9. 9:32things that she's about she kind person giving matanus other things focus on that and you…
10. 10:36and try to work bend over backwards and try to work overtime to help compensate at…

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