In a Relationship or Be as Alone and independent?

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The opening of this shiur, in Rabbi Yitzchak Botton’s own words — taken from the captions, so names and Hebrew terms may be approximate.

[Music] I had this subject this like uh I have this this theme that's coming up that that I want to share and I just don't know where to begin and how it's going to come out but it has to do with loneliness and when I say loneliness I'm not really being accurate what I'm talking about is aloneness do you hear the difference loneliness can be you know I'm lonely I want to be having relationships and not feel alone not be lonely but it's more the subject of being alone I'm fascinated by the subject of being alone you're born alone you die alone even if you're with people you're alone in your own thoughts it's your thoughts your thinking you're alone in those thoughts um we have a strange relationship with needing others on the one hand who wants to be vulnerable nobody so we'd rather be independent than need someone so we kind of want to be alone on the other hand being alone is is is lame who wants to be alone right so so none of us want to be alone and most people seek relationships in order to not be alone foreign who wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't need you imagine you found someone who was just perfectly fine on their own but a wonderful person you want to spend your life anyone here would want to spend their life with someone who just never going to need you no one really

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1. 0:02[Music] I had this subject this like uh I have this this theme that's coming up…
2. 5:12the class announced to the whole group that he's engaged to a gentile and I was…
3. 10:35swinging on and and uh but the problem with that is it's you have no the…
4. 15:52the second you put on your right hat what do you chase out of the relationship…
5. 21:41like not a yeah whatever we're scientists social scientists went in to find out about the…
6. 27:02so aha can you guys see that back there at all not so good can you…
7. 32:23of Asia tour I have set this girl and and uh anyway I gave an apology…
8. 38:56what's the biggest Band-Aid for for a lonely person a child child there's no better Band-Aid…
9. 44:09but has anyone argue that maybe this whole thing is uh a mistake meaning I don't…
10. 49:20unadulterated their their hearts have never been meaning their love pattern has never been sliced before…

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