Rabbis discuss a vital safety tool for children: a secret code word to signal discomfort or unsafe feelings.
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We could give that. It's It's not a bad practice for parents to to have like a code word mean but which means I'm feeling uncomfortable. You know, to tell your children that if you use this word you know, if you use this whatever word you make up >> us an example of one of those? >> that I'm not feeling safe right now. And and and >> Banana split. No, you could say uh Exactly. Exactly. Ice cream. No, say something. Use a word that means
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- 1:01over I'm sitting at the table, you can just pull my sleeve and and that'll mean…
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