Rabbi Yitzchok Fingerer - Relationships

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I can't begin without you sir he came holding from a length of Georgia sorry I can't I never I'm sold I'm so flattered to travel every will have to Georgia just to hear me okay so I'm gonna retell a I mean I am now going to retell a story that I don't want to share but I feel it's important to share and that is that there was a there's a man that asked his wife he said how do you deal with my mood swings how do you always stay so calm even though I have all these outbursts of anger and I could really fly off the handle and yet you know it doesn't really affect you so she said what I do is every time you get angry I go to the bathroom and I clean the toilet he said that's so interesting he said that helps she says yes I use your toothbrush relationships have consequences now relationships let's be very candid here and very honest okay relationship means that there's gonna be a physical emotional and spiritual expenditure and if the relationship is successful it enriches and fulfills your life but the relationship is not successful it depletes drains you enter veyts you and destroys a big part of you and therefore I think it's very very important for us together to study the tools behind what makes a relationship successful what are the keys to a happy relationship and what makes or breaks our relationship so there are many dating websites that I'm sure some of you have visited you know if the raising hands I'm not going to ask you not gonna shame you but I don't know if it's like Cupid calm or love calm I'm not even mentioning the websites because I'm not interested in

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1. 0:00I can't begin without you sir he came holding from a length of Georgia sorry I…
2. 6:26laboratory imagine like what they do is they shrink people and they put the people on…
3. 12:29a total type of marriage by Jewish type of marriage okay then you're setting yourself up…
4. 18:41overly impress you or he has this need it's almost like a flamboyant type of there's…
5. 24:51certain type of mindset that they got from their parents and you have a certain type…
6. 30:59your rabbi he says listen I'm telling you he's my rabbi says well how do you…
7. 37:10bachelor's degree but it has everything else that's negotiable okay you want a guy who's funny…
8. 43:20friend a friend is just like a transaction it sounds like it's trivialized a relationship it…
9. 49:35know of course I'm the rabbi of course I know everything right I have my crystal…
10. 55:53over time infatuation diminishes over time and therefore the relationship will implode it's going to happen…

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