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What If Asking Mechila Will Make Things Worse?

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Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky

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  1. 0:00This is Dov bar Lamsky with our question and answer series where in a few minutes…
  2. 0:30Don't try to uh calm somebody down when they're angry. So if you know the person…
  3. 1:00Kippur and you say will you mochel me and the person says yes they don't mean…
  4. 1:30get someone to forgive us for what we did to them and sometimes we do some…
  5. 2:02I know parents who really, really hurt their children in very, very real ways, and it…
  6. 2:33it's always nice when you have those make-believe situations where you say, "I'm really sorry. Do…
  7. 3:05But that doesn't excuse me from doing everything I can to win them over. So, I…
  8. 3:35admit that you're wrong, uh face the consequences of what you've done, and do everything in…
  9. 4:05to make sure that we get a good year. And getting people to forgive you is…

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